You said "...write down in your notebook everything you remember you blame your father for. List the things he said and did that make you feel that he was or is to blame." Am I correct in assuming that this exercise refers to things that were not done (i.e., sins of omission)?
I may well do this course - I was stunned when I saw 'blame' as the subject of the first lesson. I remember, ages ago, going to a counselor. Almost immediately, when talking about troubles with hubby, I was told to re-phase everything to "I feel ____ when ____". While this approach may have been useful if used later in the therapy, the way it was used then pretty much short-circuited any potential benefit. (Note to self: add "Counselor X" to number 7 on the list...). The approach used in Lesson 1 re "Law of Blame" looks very promising. Thank you for making this available.
One other thing - the whole COVID mess (and any number of societal issues) - lots of blame to go around there. That would also be be number 7? Or just skip it unless there is some sort of personal connection? Is this covered in the overview in last week's post?
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Date: 2021-08-05 10:36 pm (UTC)Am I correct in assuming that this exercise refers to things that were not done (i.e., sins of omission)?
I may well do this course - I was stunned when I saw 'blame' as the subject of the first lesson. I remember, ages ago, going to a counselor. Almost immediately, when talking about troubles with hubby, I was told to re-phase everything to "I feel ____ when ____". While this approach may have been useful if used later in the therapy, the way it was used then pretty much short-circuited any potential benefit. (Note to self: add "Counselor X" to number 7 on the list...). The approach used in Lesson 1 re "Law of Blame" looks very promising. Thank you for making this available.
One other thing - the whole COVID mess (and any number of societal issues) - lots of blame to go around there. That would also be be number 7? Or just skip it unless there is some sort of personal connection? Is this covered in the overview in last week's post?