Morning, JMG. Happy Magic Monday and I hope you’re doing well!
Bit of a dark subject matter in terms of my question today.
I was sexually abused as a child and the guy who did it is still at large. I’m not sure where he’s living now or even what name he’s going by, though I know his birth name. He has abused at least two other girls (now women) that I know of, but I haven’t got any contact information for them. I suspect there are and/or will be more victims then I know about.
I don’t want to do anything to him magically - I believe he’s more than capable of ruining his own life with his behaviour and eventually he’s going to reap what he’s sown. Last I heard a few years back his own parents didn’t want anything to do with him. In my mind it’s really just a question of how many more people he’ll hurt before he completely crashes and burns on his own.
What I’m interested in is the victims. I’m doing well - I have a good career I love, amazing friends, my good health, my sobriety. I have things like devotional polytheism, the FHR work, the Octagon Society work, and things of similar nature to help me sort everything and stay balanced and well adjusted despite everything. But not everyone has that and not everyone copes well (or at all) with abuse.
I started donating to a local charity that helps children exposed to sexual abuse, but I was also thinking I might want to do some sort of working to help his victims in particular, something along the lines of cleansing, healing, or protection. What I’m asking you about today is the ethics of that. As I said, I don’t have contact for the other known victims and I suspect there are others I don’t know about, so I can’t ask them for their permission. Am I ethically okay on this if I did a working naming all his victims generally, since that would include me and would count as magic on myself as well, or is this too grey an area?
I have done divination on the issue and basically was told “you could but the results may be unexpected though not necessarily unpleasant.” I’m a little close to the issue so I wanted a second opinion on whether I’m on the right track ethically and to see if you had any advice about it?
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Date: 2023-05-08 12:39 pm (UTC)Bit of a dark subject matter in terms of my question today.
I was sexually abused as a child and the guy who did it is still at large. I’m not sure where he’s living now or even what name he’s going by, though I know his birth name. He has abused at least two other girls (now women) that I know of, but I haven’t got any contact information for them. I suspect there are and/or will be more victims then I know about.
I don’t want to do anything to him magically - I believe he’s more than capable of ruining his own life with his behaviour and eventually he’s going to reap what he’s sown. Last I heard a few years back his own parents didn’t want anything to do with him. In my mind it’s really just a question of how many more people he’ll hurt before he completely crashes and burns on his own.
What I’m interested in is the victims. I’m doing well - I have a good career I love, amazing friends, my good health, my sobriety. I have things like devotional polytheism, the FHR work, the Octagon Society work, and things of similar nature to help me sort everything and stay balanced and well adjusted despite everything. But not everyone has that and not everyone copes well (or at all) with abuse.
I started donating to a local charity that helps children exposed to sexual abuse, but I was also thinking I might want to do some sort of working to help his victims in particular, something along the lines of cleansing, healing, or protection. What I’m asking you about today is the ethics of that. As I said, I don’t have contact for the other known victims and I suspect there are others I don’t know about, so I can’t ask them for their permission. Am I ethically okay on this if I did a working naming all his victims generally, since that would include me and would count as magic on myself as well, or is this too grey an area?
I have done divination on the issue and basically was told “you could but the results may be unexpected though not necessarily unpleasant.” I’m a little close to the issue so I wanted a second opinion on whether I’m on the right track ethically and to see if you had any advice about it?
Thanks for everything,
J