My best guess is that we are being asked to treat the objects of our anger as if they were people we love, like a child or spouse or other close relative. Beloved people do things that anger us, and how do we react? Usually not with the full force of hate and malice and vengeance that we accord to our enemies, right?
So to love our neighbors as ourselves, we make the effort to stand in their shoes and see what they see from their perspective. We discharge the hot anger in some form of necessary work, hard physical labor or an angry stomping dance to music that energizes and dissipates energy.
Then we are left with cool anger and we begin to plan. Plan what? Whatever it takes to get across to the offending parties that we find A, B, C, Q, and X situations intolerable and that we will not put up with those. At all. On those we will fight and make life most unpleasant for the Offenders.
That We find D thru P and R situations less obnoxious but still smelly. These are negotiable and we are willing to consider options that will allow Us and Them to get some of what we each want some of the time.
We firmly state what we find valuable about our relationship with Them and that we are unwilling at this time to damage the relationship. We ask for their responses to our declarations and then we listen and consider what has been said.
It is dreary work. Tedious, icky, time consuming, heart-achy and head-knocking work. But, being the grown-ups in the room, we do it the best we know how.
This is what we do unless we perceive that there is clear and present danger to us or Anyone and then we take immediate steps to halt the Offenders in their tracks and prevent them from doing more harm.
Don’t know if this answers your question. I was more or less trying to work out a game plan for myself.
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branchandroot
Re: Eisenstein - The Mask of Derision
Date: 2022-11-10 08:44 pm (UTC)So to love our neighbors as ourselves, we make the effort to stand in their shoes and see what they see from their perspective. We discharge the hot anger in some form of necessary work, hard physical labor or an angry stomping dance to music that energizes and dissipates energy.
Then we are left with cool anger and we begin to plan. Plan what? Whatever it takes to get across to the offending parties that we find A, B, C, Q, and X situations intolerable and that we will not put up with those. At all. On those we will fight and make life most unpleasant for the Offenders.
That We find D thru P and R situations less obnoxious but still smelly. These are negotiable and we are willing to consider options that will allow Us and Them to get some of what we each want some of the time.
We firmly state what we find valuable about our relationship with Them and that we are unwilling at this time to damage the relationship. We ask for their responses to our declarations and then we listen and consider what has been said.
It is dreary work. Tedious, icky, time consuming, heart-achy and head-knocking work. But, being the grown-ups in the room, we do it the best we know how.
This is what we do unless we perceive that there is clear and present danger to us or Anyone and then we take immediate steps to halt the Offenders in their tracks and prevent them from doing more harm.
Don’t know if this answers your question.
I was more or less trying to work out a game plan for myself.