My parents (father deceased in 1995) had an outer number of 5, and an inner number of 8. Their marriage was a rolling disaster. Our family life was mostly chaos. Neither parent was "bad" in my view. Mom tried to hold down the fort while my pilot father pretty much bid every long-haul Asia trip he could, and when home made it his business to play tennis all day with his friends and arrive in time for dinner. Maybe. Meanwhile, she lobbied against him with the kids, with limited success. He couldn't die from cancer fast enough for her. And once gone, the wonderful life she thought she'd have proved to be a mirage. He truly was not the sole source of her problems.
Perhaps, had they worked at that relationship rather than dad cut-and-run, and mom circle the drain in bitterness, things may have worked out better. I'll never know. To this day, my sibs and I really can't mention dad to mom without feeling the temperature drop about 50 degrees.
So, thank you for a system that shed a bit more light on a situation that really was NOT my fault. My heart feels lighter.
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branchandroot
Curiously Relieved
Date: 2022-02-04 12:47 am (UTC)Perhaps, had they worked at that relationship rather than dad cut-and-run, and mom circle the drain in bitterness, things may have worked out better. I'll never know. To this day, my sibs and I really can't mention dad to mom without feeling the temperature drop about 50 degrees.
So, thank you for a system that shed a bit more light on a situation that really was NOT my fault. My heart feels lighter.
OtterGirl