I am married to an asexual man. I didn't know this when I married him, kept thinking it would get better. This wasn't a big problem the first few years, but now I'm going through the female hormonal ("last chance to get pregnant") changes in my thirties and it's driving me nuts.

Am I correct that I need to be on my mental game, because if I let my thoughts stray to sexual desires behind the scenes, it'll reflect such scenes in the astral light and they'll echo back to me, making it worse? Do I need to try to not think of sex at all to keep this from happening?

I am already trying to exercise as much as possible in hopes of my sexual desires being funneled elsewhere. I also take care of myself in the bedroom but in recent months it hasn't been enough. Is there anything else I can do? Thank you.