Thanks for your ideas. I think you are right about dreary work, very tedious and of course, case by case, situation by situation. I have already told one friend that I wouldn't discuss COVID with her anymore as I valued our friendship too much to damage it by continuing in such discussions. I don't think my anger was quite cool yet in that situation, but I wanted it to be, so I just called Pax. As time goes on, I think my original knee jerk othering reactions have calmed down. I may not love the COVIDIANS in my life, but at least, I don't want to other them, I hope. I think there is something of Aikido or Sun Tsu about all this. Seems to me that when your anger seeks expression in hate, you have already hit the matt.