We'll get to that in future posts in this sequence. The short form is that at any given period in your life, you need one goal that overrides everything else; all other goals must be subordinate to it. At intervals, you can reorient yourself, set one goal aside (preferably after you've achieved it), and add others.

In the case you've described, the couple needs to work things out in advance. Indulging in the conflict between making a million dollars and keeping a spouse happy is an efective way to do neither.